Allowing is the New Controlling
This blog is an excerpt from the current class: Experiencing Your New Earth Body
The New Earth is not arriving around us—it is rising through us.
We have been conditioned out of allowing, because control has been framed as survival. We learned to control in order to feel safe. And so now, part of our work is to relearn allowing—but in a way that feels supportive, not destabilizing. When we sink into true allowing, we are sinking into the grounded presence of Mother Earth—the Great Feminine, the great ground of being that holds us.
There is a profound difference between allowing as a passive, vulnerable state and allowing as a powerful state.
Passive allowing can feel like collapse—like you have no agency, no protection, no power. But powerful allowing is entirely different. It increases your power, because you are permitting living energies to self-organize into coherence—into harmony, love, and strength—through you.
This is the kind of allowing we will be learning to embody more deeply throughout our ceremonies together. So I really invite you to feel into the difference: Allowing that lets living energies inform, regulate, organize, and align you. Versus allowing that feels disempowering, unsafe, or exposed. This distinction is essential. It’s a true crux point. The more clearly you sense the difference between these two states, the more quickly you’ll recognize when you slip into passive vulnerability—and when you are standing in powerful alignment.
This is something worth contemplating. Worth journaling with. Worth feeling into gently and honestly.
Because learning this difference will change how you meet life—and how life meets you.
So many of my struggles arise when I am allowing from a passive perspective, fueling resentment, anger, sadness. So much “allowing” conditioning was passed down generationally. I can feel and sense the codependent dynamics woven from religious guilt (to give selflessly to others), feminine expectations of other’s needs versus my needs, family dynamics of trauma that made boundary crossing permissible, to societal expectations of how “ nice girls” should act. Much of my life has been in relationship with the passive allowing, and much of it unconsciously.
AND I am deeply aware of my sovereign allowing, when I’m empowered in my truth, able to speak/ act from a grounded peaceful know that’s connected to my higher being connected to cosmic consciousness. Métis, embodied harmony between spiritual and physical.
I continue to be a work in progress with awareness and compassionate curiosity!
To me the “passive allowing” you describe is what falling into victim feels like. This is where one just lets outside influences (from conditioned society) to take advantage of or somehow harm the individual. Whereas the “powerful allowing” is focused on trusting the living energies to nourish and guide. So, the passive allowing feels like falling prey to the conditioned society and powerful allowing feels like trusting the living energies.