Attachments: What Holds Us — and How We Return to Wholeness

In spiritual conversations, the word attachment comes up often. We’re told to “release attachments,” “work with attachments,” or “let attachments go.” Yet the same word is used to describe very different experiences—emotional, somatic, relational, energetic, karmic, and sometimes spiritual in nature.

Because of this, attachment can easily become something we judge in ourselves.

I take a different approach, grounded in the feminine and living energy perspectives. If we build our physical immune system, we are less likely to fall ill. If we center in the flow of living energies and luminosity, attachments fall away.

Attachment is not a flaw. It is not a spiritual failure. It is not evidence that you are doing something wrong.

Attachment is a signal—a place where energy learned to hold in order to survive, orient, or belong in a world that once felt unsafe.

When understood this way, attachment becomes an invitation rather than a problem.

Attachment as a Search for Safety

At its core, attachment forms when the body, nervous system, or subtle field does not feel secure enough to relax into the present moment. Energy binds itself to something—a person, an outcome, a role, a belief, a vibration or frequency—because that attachment once provided stability.

In the feminine, living energy language, attachment often reflects a loss of alignment along the central luminous axis that connects us to Mother Earth and Father Sun. We are meant to be supported and recycle heavy energies into lighter ones through the natural dynamics of our light axis and toroidal field.

The axis is the inner vertical alignment—the living centerline through which a greater intelligence organizes ourselves between Earth and Sky, body and consciousness, matter and spirit. When this axis is not fully inhabited, the system naturally looks outward for grounding.  When the light axis is fully flowing, it morphs into a flowing toroidal field—the intelligence of creation that supports embodiment.

Forms of attachment include:

• attachment to relationships
• attachment to control
• attachment to certainty
• attachment to identity
• attachment to timelines or outcomes
• attachments to non-coherent energies

Attachments form not because something is wrong—but because we are trying to stay safe using a limited approach… using personal will instead of connecting to the living energies of higher intelligence and higher-frequency consciousness.

Emotional and Relational Attachments

Many people experience attachment most strongly in relationships. This can look like emotional dependency, over-merging, fear of abandonment, or difficulty separating cleanly from someone—even long after a relationship has ended.

From the perspective of feminine creation energy, this is not weakness or “neediness.”

It is often the result of love becoming fused with survival.

Sensitive and empathic beings frequently learned early that connection required vigilance, emotional responsibility, or self-erasure. Attachment became a way to stay connected.

As consciousness evolves, love is invited to evolve too—from merging into sovereign presence.

In the New Earth model, intimacy does not require entanglement. It requires two centered beings meeting in coherence.

Attachment in the Body and Nervous System

One of the most important New Earth teachings is this:

Many attachments are not mental. They are somatic.

Attachment may live as:

• a freeze response in the nervous system
• a stress pattern stored in the body
• an emotional wave that never completed
• a survival strategy held in tissue and fascia

The body may remain attached to suffering not because it wants pain, but because suffering once felt familiar or predictable. In some systems, intensity became associated with aliveness.

This is why “letting go” through the mind alone often doesn’t work.

In the feminine, living energy perspective, attachment releases when the body feels safe enough to soften. Through grounding, breath, presence, and coherent relational fields, the nervous system updates to the present time—and what once had to be held no longer does.

Mental Attachments and Thought Loops

Thought is energy. Repeated thought becomes structure.

Many attachments take the form of mental loops: rumination, obsessive thinking, replaying conversations, or fixation on imagined futures. These patterns are not character flaws; they are signs the system is trying to predict and control in order to feel safe.

Battling with the mind is useless, it creates further dissonance and instability. Instead, attention is gently returned to the body and into coherent fields where the mind can rest. The subtle mental energies will unwind with ease, releasing their binding hold.

A ceremony is a powerful way to release attachments. The collective field entrains individual nervous systems, allowing mental energy to settle without force.

Energetic Attachments and Cords

In subtle anatomy, attachment may also appear as energetic cords—connections formed through intimacy, caregiving, trauma bonding, sexual exchange, or unresolved endings.

Not all cords are unhealthy. Some reflect love and connection.

But when cords persist beyond completion, they can create energetic drain, emotional pull, or difficulty reclaiming one’s center.

Approach the cords with appreciation, understanding, and a wish for the unresolved issues to return to the light, to complete their path through evolution instead of aggression. Judging does not feel safe. Strengthening your light axis brings safety and opens the flow from heaven and earth, so completion occurs naturally.  As the inner axis strengthens and energy returns home, cords tend to unwind organically—without snapping or harm.

Attachment as External Influences or “Entities”

In some spiritual and shamanic traditions, attachment refers to external influences—sometimes called entities, astral attachments, or intrusive energies.

It’s important to approach this topic with discernment and grounding.

Many experiences labeled as entities are actually:

• trauma parts
• dissociation
• unintegrated emotional energy
• nervous system dysregulation
• intrusive thought patterns
• depletion or burnout

But  when the field becomes porous and fear, anxiety, tension, and striving settle in, external influences may entrain. This tends to occur when:

• the axis is collapsed or under-inhabited
• living energies are not flowing fully
• the root chakra is disconnected from its safety and grounding to Mother Earth
• the person is chronically out of body
• there is unresolved shock trauma
• the lower chakras are depleted
• psychic openness developed without grounding or containment

From the feminine, living energy perspective, the response is never fear-based removal.

The remedy is always the same:

• inhabit the body
• restore the central axis
• ground deeply into the Earth
• reconnect with the Higher Being
• strengthen coherence in the field

In this model, protection is not armor. Protection is presence.

When coherence is restored, external influences lose access naturally—without struggle or drama.

Spiritual and Karmic Attachments

Some attachments carry a karmic or cross-lifetime quality. These may originate as vows, oaths, or agreements formed in other timelines—often rooted in devotion, sacrifice, or loyalty to suffering.

They can appear as repeating relationship patterns, chronic obligation, or the sense that freedom would be “wrong.”

These not punishments, but again, completions waiting to happen. Completion does not require continued suffering—only conscious acknowledgment and present-time sovereignty that allows your higher being intelligence to reveal and release the patterns.

How Attachment Dissolves with the Support of Ceremony

Attachment rarely dissolves through effort. It dissolves through resonance. Resonance with one’s higher self, with Mother Earth and Father Sun, with a fully activated toroidal field and central axis, and the support of the collective intelligence and guidance of the luminous realms. The SpiritHeal Sacred Circle ceremonies offer:

—collective coherence

—nervous system regulation

—embodied safety

—energetic transmission to clear heavy energies

—grounding in your true self

—relationship with illuminated souls

—the presence of benevolent intelligences

—the return of sole fragments that dissociated during trauma

When the being is held in this way, what once had to be gripped can finally be released.

Attachment doesn’t disappear because it is forced away—it dissolves because it is no longer needed.

A Closing Reflection

Attachments are an invitation to learn more about your multidimensional nature, the subtle world of spirit, your higher being, and your experience as an embodied human.

When met with compassion, embodiment, and truth, the grip of attachment relaxes. And as it relaxes, a deeper belonging emerges—belonging to your body, to the Earth, and to the living flow of life itself.

Go to Part Two: Attachment Release Journal